I’m not a relationship guru by any means, in fact, so far every single one of mine has failed – that doesn’t mean I didn’t learn a lot long the way.
So last night, I was having one of those sleepless nights where the mind wonders, I don’t mind it, the dead of night is when I do a lot of my thinking and its just part of my own process – a process which by the way, is different for every single person in the world. There is no perfect thought process, and perfection is what I was thinking about last night.
So what do I mean in waiting for imperfect perfection?
Well, a lot of you will know what I mean when I say you, me, and everyone at some point in their life was guilty of settling for something less than perfect, perfection however, is different for everyone, which is why I call it imperfect perfection.
See, who is perfect for me might not be perfect for you, this is because people have flaws, holes, inabilities and when our strengths complement each other’s weaknesses, this is when we find imperfect perfection.
I see a lot of people complain on a daily basis that their relationship is draining, isn’t right, makes them unhappy, but they don’t have the strength to have that difficult conversation, and make the move onwards alone if needed.
She has a nice ass? Great, but is she meeting your needs mentally?
The sex is good? Awesome, but is she the person you go to when you have a problem to solve?
She’s good fun? But is she meeting your spiritual needs and desires?
Sometimes, satisfaction in the earlier stages of a relationship are easy to derive from the physical, when we start looking to the long term however, it’s important to remember that desires and needs and beliefs extend from the physical into the realms of spiritual and mental – this is often when relationships struggle.
When two people connect on multiple levels it makes everything easier, not harder – this is the entire point in partnering up. Life is hard, you need someone who makes it easier, someone who when you walk through that door gives you relief.
Relationships of substance and character aren’t simply a case of “finding the one”, there are many people who could fit into your life and you into theirs in return, it is simple a case of finding each individual imperfect perfections, and seeing that your own imperfections can be boosted by them, and likewise theirs by yours.
This, my friends, is why I will not chasing imperfect perfection from now on. Perfect does exist for me, just as it does for you, be bold and find it, if you continue to settle for less than your own perfect then you will always struggle, sure, you might manage and survive, but who wants to survive when you can live?